Families Anonymous

Well done butterfly I am so very proud of you .
There is no crime in wanting to help ppl and realising u need to help yourself first
I am glad you and your husband are communicating great asset to be sure …
Your last post was so inspiring
Bless you in famanon fellowship
You go girl
Lesleerose

Hi butterfly 🦋 How dare he speak to you like that and tell him so … You deserve respect and tell him that also … As far as the lying 🤥 is concerned it’s not acceptable tell him that too … Block and delete her as far as he is concerned he is behaving like a spoiled child … You are 100 % in the right ...

Dearest butterfly 🦋 There are red flags 🚩 coming here from all directions Firstly in meetings it’s a man for a man and a woman for a woman Therefore you or your husband should have no dealings with your so called friend … send her a text telling her “ you want nothing more to do with her “ short and...

Dear ch It is self preservation not selfish at the moment you are in denial I have been there myself… it’s a symptom of addiction we think we can save them but we can’t I come on here for my addict daughter she was absolutely stunning long blond hair cascading down her back chiselled features she co...

Hi tatty lashes I have been following your posts … your partner doesn’t seem to want to stop and there is absolutely nothing you can do to save him … I believe in god my higher power and my prayers have been answered on many occasions though the answer is not always what I expected . Time to get out...

Dearest fam This sounds all so familiar to me I was in exactly the same place …I come on here for my addict daughter she started using drugs early teen she is now 40 and still using …. It was soul destroying my heart and soul ripped to shreds my mental physical and spiritual self was dying inside … ...

Dearest butterfly 🦋 You could try Al-Anon much the same … I believe they would welcome you with open arms … and there is zoom online meetings… there is also a step meeting on this forum… You need some meetings to identify with … also it works by giving it away … this is how we solve the common probl...

Hi concerned mum What a beautiful post … it’s tough picking yourself up time and time again with this relentless struggle of addiction and everything that comes with it … as I write I am pushing myself out the door to do a couple of things and am not well … I have fallen twice this week with drains ...

He is not capable of being a parent anymore… says it all … you are not feeling sorry for yourself because as you say it’s hard not to remember the way it was before … this is ambiguous grief … Let him go with love get to those online meetings… share everything with others in the same position as you...

Yes ultimatum time You have given him chance after chance… now he has to go if you want to keep your sanity intact … Doesn’t sound as though he is ready to stop so by allowing him to get away with it you are actually enabling him You told him at Xmas and nothing has changed So nothing changes if not...

Dearest butterfly I understand this totally … you and your husband have been living in chaos hell of addiction and now suddenly your husband is 6 months on the way to recovery the same as you .. Of course you have mixed emotions you wouldn’t be human if you didn’t …. There is a saying give time time...

Hi onw There are no winners in addiction of course you will be upset to see him leave … you are doing the right thing putting your children and yourself as priority.. Try and keep it all in the day ….hopefully your husband gets to meetings and in 3 months perhaps your mind will have had time to heal...

Hi viv and a big welcome to famanon… I know it costs approx £500 a week for addiction so that is about right … I would be doing exactly the same as you his sister and gf … It’s terrific he is going to NA time will tell not many make it though some do I did … Addiction is addiction whether it’s cocai...

Dear OBW Good for you because you are now indifferent to whether he uses or not he is leaving That is recovery so absolutely well done Way to go that’s what happened to me I became totally indifferent to my addict daughter… I feel there comes a point where they cannot hurt you any more Again well do...

Dearest OBW It’s the other way around he has to leave then stop using to prove himself as he says … cocaine addicts cannot go off their drugs for 3 days the withdrawal would be horrendous… the fact he is in a room for days tells me he is using something Get him to leave now or next week will be anot...