Families Anonymous

Hi Chxrry Welcome to FA! You are in the right place. What you describe is similar to so many other members' experiences here. It's the madness of addiction. In fact, we the loved ones can become addicted to our addict! But that's madness too. I would say a huge YES! It IS time to look after yourself...

Hi Concerned Mum How right you are! If we don't take care of ourselves, we are no real help to anyone else, and we end up spiralling further and further down. I view it as being responsible to myself to keep myself healthy and class it as self care, not being selfish. I loved your description of you...

Hello Strugglingmum Welcome to FA. This is where making contact with others who have lived through similar will guide and support your recovery from this family situation that can wreck it if we allow it to! You've spent many thousands. Where has it got you? There comes a time of realisation! We wak...

Dear Sept25 Welcome to FA. This fellowship saved me when I thought I couldn't carry on. That is not an exaggeration. Your post could have been mine some years ago. It is one of the the worst things for a mother to see... her adult child destroying themselves, knowing that there was nothing, NOTHING ...

Hello jay jay Your post resonated with me. That was me some years ago. The memories will stay with me forever. You say " Common sense tells me it has to stop. I have to stop. But how?" My answer is this... Go to a meeting, online if there's not one you can travel to. There's a link with a ...

Hello lacura Welcome to FA I read your post with interest. The others have given their personal views on your husband's position. However, what is also important is your own self care. You seem to have realised that you are struggling, and who could blame you! Addiction, in whatever form, can destro...

Hello Juliane Welcome to FA. What a terrible time this is for you, your son and the rest of the family. You are all in crisis, your son especially, and I would suggest that he is encouraged to ring the Samaritans. Contacting the local crisis team, if you haven't already, is also recommended. You hav...

Hello Maldordan Welcome to our FA forum. I would suggest a chat on the FA helpline may bring you a little clarity. It is so helpful to speak directly with another person who has also had a loved one with a drug problem. All volunteers on the helpline are in that position. The number is 0207 498 4680...

Hello Deea I would repeat what Paulette has said. Nobody should live in fear and be under threat of violence. You have a child. Your daughter is at risk. Removing yourself and your baby from the situation is so important. Paulette has given you the numbers you need. I would suggest asking yourself a...

Dear Queenofthepaws I read your post and felt compelled to reply. I understand. Dealing with the fallout from an addict's behaviour can cripple us, if we let it. I think that's the point at which I started to change my thought process around the whole issue. Did I want to allow my addict's behaviour...

Hi Head over to the Discussion page. That's where we tend to share our experiences. This problem can overwhelm us. There are our basic readings here too. I'd also suggest looking at the main FA website on www.famanon.org.uk There are lots of leaflets and books that can also help in the Shop area the...

Hello Elizabeth chucky Welcome to FA! I get it. My son is as addict too. I have lived through very similar feelings. My heart still jumps and I feel an adrenaline rush each time there's a knock at the door sometimes. I think many of us here have asked the same question, what did do wrong! But the si...

Dear jd I hear your pain. I've felt very similar in the past. I have housed my son in various flats, bedsits, tents, and hotels. I've paid landlords and debts. All to no avail. I had to stand back, allow him to feel what homelessness feels like. I could write a book about it all, but we all know it ...

Hello Mickey Welcome to FA. Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry to read your post, but can relate so much. It describes well how addiction can ruin families, not just the addict. It sounds as though you have reached the point of saying " Enough's enough" before your wife has go...

Hello Joyfin I totally agree with Paulette's comments. You most definitely are not being OTT. Although we may never stop loving and caring about our addicts, we get to a point when we realise that to keep cushioning their falls and "helping" them out of sticky situations, is really not the...