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by Thankful
Mon Sep 04, 2017 7:30 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: A longing heart
Replies: 2
Views: 1031

Re: A longing heart

Hi Puddleduck It's odd isn't it, when the "problem" has seemingly gone away, but it doesn't bring all the relief expected? My addicted loved one has recently started to recover, and of course it s a great relief and joy to see his progress. But it also reveals how much I need to recover. H...
by Thankful
Sat Jan 28, 2017 5:21 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Ultimatums?
Replies: 3
Views: 1506

Re: Ultimatums?

Hi Done, all, This is why Step 1 of our programme is so relevant to us- to admit we are powerless over drugs and other people's lives. This is the whole foundation of the FA 12 step programme we follow to recover ourselves. Once we admit that we have no control over the addict and their choices, it ...
by Thankful
Sat Jan 21, 2017 11:33 am
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Son is homeless
Replies: 13
Views: 4387

Re: Son is homeless

Hi all, I can relate to all of these posts. For the last 2 years my son has been in different places, having lost his job (which amazingly he had kept for the previous 2 years - until his employer had had enough, and he lost his job and house share room at the same time). I've tried many times to ba...
by Thankful
Wed May 04, 2016 2:41 am
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: How they must feel inside.
Replies: 4
Views: 2052

Re: How they must feel inside.

It's been a very long road for me, up and down, detaching, re-engaging, loving the times when ALO is lovely, the sweet person inside, despairing and angry when it's the "other" face presented. Sadly what it boils down to for me is what are my boundaries, and clarity on what the reality of ...
by Thankful
Sat Apr 30, 2016 3:47 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: How they must feel inside.
Replies: 4
Views: 2052

Re: How they must feel inside.

I think this is a very good point here. I have been puzzled about why my ALO does not do take up offers to go to rehab, or even the night shelter when clearly the situation he is in now (thrown out yet again due to substance abuse related behaviour, now sleeping in a tent) when there are definitely ...
by Thankful
Sat Apr 30, 2016 3:43 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: My sons is in such distress and I am powerless
Replies: 18
Views: 6771

Re: My sons is in such distress and I am powerless

Hi all Not posted for a while, a very long while. My ALO had been living with my mum for a few months but finally she couldn't take any more and he had to go. He only lasted 6 days at the new flatshare as his flatmate quite understandably would not accept the immediate breach of boundaries. Now he i...
by Thankful
Sun Nov 08, 2015 5:57 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: The Long Road to Recovery
Replies: 6
Views: 2143

Re: The Long Road to Recovery

Hi all, The road to OUR recovery is also a long one. We get so bent out of shape it is difficult to remember what "normal" responses are to very abnormal situations. This is true whether or not our Adddicted Loved One is in recovery. Mine is not, and does not even acknowledge that this is ...
by Thankful
Sun Oct 25, 2015 4:13 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: ALO sleeping in car
Replies: 4
Views: 1750

Re: ALO sleeping in car

Thanks, both of you for your replies. It's a comfort to be understood by those who have similar struggles. The reading in Today A Better Way about detaching with love is very relevant for me at this time.
by Thankful
Sat Oct 24, 2015 9:33 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: my son in a homeless hostel
Replies: 6
Views: 3284

Re: my son in a homeless hostel

Hi Vanessa, As you may see from my own post above re ALO sleeping in car, I understand the conflict inside of what is actually is best to do. I could easily sort things out for him - but, and as I have been able to explain to him this week - the way it works, just like the law of gravity, is that an...
by Thankful
Sat Oct 24, 2015 9:22 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: ALO sleeping in car
Replies: 4
Views: 1750

ALO sleeping in car

Hi all, I've not posted in a while here. My ALO has been a "functioning" addict as some call it, for about 2 -3 years.. life relatively stable, kept in same job, in same house share situation. But in the summer both came to an abrupt end. I couldnt quite get to the bottom of the explanatio...
by Thankful
Sat Nov 15, 2014 9:11 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Help! I could use some advice.
Replies: 3
Views: 1247

Re: Help! I could use some advice.

Hi Ella, I can relate to what you're saying in several ways - i tried for a long long time to "sort" my son out - a long time before drugs ever came into it I now realise. There's usual a whole mix of different causes and reasons for why things are how they are. That's why in Families Anon...
by Thankful
Tue Feb 18, 2014 6:56 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: My dear son died yesterday
Replies: 16
Views: 3935

Re: My dear son died yesterday

Dear Paulineanne

I can only echo what others have already said above this post. Sending you much love at this time.

Xx
by Thankful
Thu Feb 13, 2014 12:52 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Feeling stuck
Replies: 5
Views: 1512

Re: Feeling stuck

Hi all For a long time I've not mentioned those habits to my ALO - addicted loved one - as I felt it wound me up and didn't help anyone. Then i started to feel I'd swung the opposite way into denial. Quite recently our conversations have opened up the subject and we have had some adult to adult talk...
by Thankful
Mon Jan 20, 2014 8:59 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: FA Convention - remember to book your hotel room soon!
Replies: 0
Views: 1202

FA Convention - remember to book your hotel room soon!

Hi all, I just wanted to let people know it's a good idea to book your room soon at the Hilton Metropole in Birmingham for our FA Convention on Sat 26 April. I booked last week and there's plenty of availability. You don't have to pay up front, and although you give a credit card to guarantee it the...
by Thankful
Sun Jan 19, 2014 11:31 am
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: A Big Loss- Toni from Thursday Glasgow Group
Replies: 3
Views: 1400

Re: A Big Loss- Toni from Thursday Glasgow Group

Hi Glasgow Group.

So sorry for your loss of a valued FA member, our thoughts are with you.

RIP Toni.