Families Anonymous

Hi Fammember The others have given you good advice. Probably not what you want to hear, as unless your sister wants to get clean, she won't. She will drag you and your mother deep into the rabbit hole with her, if you allow her to. Living with someone in active addiction is horrendous, as you have f...

Hi TL Time to think ONLY of you and your little one. Your partner will do what he will do - so let him! Ask him to leave, let him take responsibility for himself, or not as the case may be. You don't need the stress and chaos that he brings into your life. That strength will come back once you groun...

Hi Chxrry I would say absolutely take care of you. You have been there, and done that, with your girlfriend - it hasn't had a positive outcome. She is not interested in getting clean - she is showing you that. As long as you give, she will take, take and take! Time to step back and put all that ener...

Totally agree with Bette, it's not selfish, but self-caring and necessary.
These moments remind us to take care of ourselves, and that there is peace and beauty when we step away from addiction.
Much Love
L x

How you are feeling is normal MF. How could you not feel disappointed at your partner. He sounds as if his family have rallied round him, mamby pampied him and sorted his wee life out for him. He was more than happy to let them do that, without any concern shown to you and the children he doesn't wa...

Butterfly

You have been through alot,and it takes time to put all that behind you. Truth is, maybe you can't. Things turn out that way at times.
All you can do is take each day as it comes, and see how you feel down the line.
Either way, you will be ok.
Much Love
L x

WDF I'm sorry to be blunt, but he is at the piss take. Throwing the sarcastic reply to you! I would have banjo'd him over the skull with a pot. He's being very arrogant and gaslighting you. Making you out to be the daftie! He is not anywhere ready to wanting sobriety. Take care of you, and tell him ...

Ladies

I think you are both doing great. Even though it's hurtful on the heart, you are both making decisions to put yourselves first.
That takes courage and strength.
You will come through this!
Much Love
L x

OBW He knows you haven't let him down. He knows you have to protect yourself and he knows it's his drug use that is the reason he has to leave. He will have to decide which route he takes - recovery or not. Of course we can't just turn our feelings off like a tap, but as you said, it will be a relie...

Hi Viv Seems like you are doing the best you can, to support your son. Ketamine withdrawal can be severe initially , that's why it's difficult to stop using. Like most drugs. The urge to take more to prevent the withdrawals can be strong. Is someone going to be with him? Take it day by day, and hope...

Hi OBW I agree, give him a deadline, end of story. Tell him you want to prepare for your daughter coming home. If he doesn't seem likely to adhere to that, you may have to put the foot firmly down, and tell him you want him to leave NOW. It's always difficult when you would to "be nice" ab...

Hi Jore
I wish you and your little boy the very best future. You are a strong woman, and mother - that's all he needs.
Much Love
L x

Hi MF I have to agree with Poetry. Your partner has not treated you well at all. Not even close to it. He's too busy concentrating on himself and getting out of his face. You are feeling everything strange and new, and of course, worrying about the future. Can I say, your future with your kids, with...

Hi MF You're a caring person. These are things caring people do. His mother would inform you if he wasn't ok. You have nothing to feel guilty for. You are the one bringing up your kids, keepung them safe. As Lesleerose said, it does get easier as time goes. If you contact him, you will wish you hadn...

Hi Maloney I echo Lesleerose's words. Get yourself to a famanon meeting Your husband is right in what he says, unless you have been an addict, you can't understand what he is going through, feeling, thinking, attempting not to use etc. Just the same as someone who has never had an addict in their li...