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by LM66
Wed Mar 27, 2024 10:30 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Some light and hope .. although a long way to go
Replies: 3
Views: 56

Re: Some light and hope .. although a long way to go

I wish nothing but the best for your son and his journey. I hope he can cope and stay the course of rehab.
This also gives you the opportunity to concentrate on your own recovery, and gather strength.
Much Love
L x
by LM66
Wed Mar 27, 2024 10:19 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Help focusing on ways forward
Replies: 12
Views: 160

Re: Help focusing on ways forward

This self-reliance will serve you well MF. You will rediscover your confidence and forge a path forwards.
You are stronger than you think - how true thìs is.
Much Love
L x
by LM66
Wed Mar 27, 2024 10:14 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Supporting financially
Replies: 9
Views: 132

Re: Supporting financially

I don't know where your sister lives, but depending on the local authority, and what is available, your sister could be offered temp accommodation. Unfortunately, this could be a hostel, which she has left previously. It really comes down to availability.
Much Love
L x
by LM66
Wed Mar 27, 2024 10:11 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: I don’t know what to fo
Replies: 3
Views: 31

Re: I don’t know what to fo

Hi JayC
Just as you blocked him, so can they if they choose to.
I'm sure they will all be aware of the reasons you have blocked him, and they can follow suit if they want to.
Ask them not to tell you that he has contacted them to ask you to call him - that's the only thing you should do.
Much Love
L x
by LM66
Tue Mar 26, 2024 7:42 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Supporting financially
Replies: 9
Views: 132

Re: Supporting financially

Hi Autumn I think it boils down to, do you want to do it? If you do, then do it without any expectations of her. Will she repeat her behaviours? It's highly likely. Or, as Lesleerose suggests, you can leave her to her own devices. It's difficult to know what to do for the best, so for me, I do what ...
by LM66
Tue Mar 26, 2024 7:39 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Help focusing on ways forward
Replies: 12
Views: 160

Re: Help focusing on ways forward

MF If you go to the main page, and from the drop down menu choose literature. The free download called tough love, is particularly good. We can't just turn our emotions off like a tap, but it takes work to keep putting our addict on the back foot. He will be just fine, trust me. You're the one worry...
by LM66
Mon Mar 25, 2024 8:12 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Help focusing on ways forward
Replies: 12
Views: 160

Re: Help focusing on ways forward

MF Nothing that you do, or don't do, will cause him to relapse - that is 100% on him. We're not that powerful! Concentrate on you and the children. Keep in your mind the shitty things hr has done or said to you. Write them down, and each time you feel a wobble - read that list. You will get stronger...
by LM66
Fri Mar 22, 2024 7:48 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Death by Duvet
Replies: 8
Views: 115

Re: Death by Duvet

Oh for sure Lesleerose. I think we all have days like that. Days when I can't even be bothered speaking. I think we are allowed to have dsys, just to feel what we feel. The important thing is, that we don't live there. We get up, dust ourselves off, and keep going. It's probably your important event...
by LM66
Fri Mar 22, 2024 5:19 am
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: So had enough - don’t have the strength
Replies: 17
Views: 259

Re: So had enough - don’t have the strength

JayC Yes, I absolutely experienced this. Anytime my phone would ring or a txt message received, I was immediately thrown into a panic. Even just seeing his name pop up on the screen sent me off on one. The adrenaline shot through my whole body. It's bloody awful! Immediately into fight or flight mod...
by LM66
Thu Mar 21, 2024 7:15 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: So had enough - don’t have the strength
Replies: 17
Views: 259

Re: So had enough - don’t have the strength

Jay & Exhausted
I hope you both have a fantastic holiday. Go, and give no sh*ts whatsoever about what's happening with your addicts.
It's all about you!

Thank you to all for the words of support. Together, we can be quite formidable you know 😊
Much Love
L x
by LM66
Thu Mar 21, 2024 7:11 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: I know i have to let go
Replies: 6
Views: 135

Re: I know i have to let go

You are not the one who has let your children down, your partner has. You have been the person holding it all together, out working for your family - you have absolutely nothing to reproach yourself for - NOTHING! You have been badly let down by your partner, and of course you will be hurting. We ca...
by LM66
Wed Mar 20, 2024 4:10 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: 40 days later my son has made contact 🙏🏽
Replies: 7
Views: 128

Re: 40 days later my son has made contact 🙏🏽

Tread carefully, Anaid.
Much Love
L x
by LM66
Wed Mar 20, 2024 4:09 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: So had enough - don’t have the strength
Replies: 17
Views: 259

Re: So had enough - don’t have the strength

Hi Jay It doesnt make you a bad mum at all. I've just gone no contact with my son, as I have more than enough of his chaos. Everyday is a crisis. Refusal to give money is followed by abusive, degrading, disgusting and threatening txts. I have attempted to maintain the contact for 10 years, as I am t...
by LM66
Sat Mar 16, 2024 6:21 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Exhausted
Replies: 14
Views: 229

Re: Exhausted

Hi Exhausted Can you not charge your ring door bell? We charge ours during the night, but the charge lasts for ages. I agree, the best thing ever - we don't need to open the door to see who is there. We got one after I was on my knees one night (daft o'clock time) looking out the catflap as I though...
by LM66
Sat Mar 16, 2024 12:06 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Frightened
Replies: 38
Views: 641

Re: Frightened

Bang on CM!