Families Anonymous

Hi and welcome to the forum. Famanon has been an enormous help and support and your right in that sometimes it helps just to get it out and write it down . Part of writing it down for me also helped me see how insane his behaviour was and how I was being pulled into it. Like Poetry said No one knows...

Lovely quote LM and very true.

I struggle to get on and post as frequently as previously but you all are in my thoughts and prayers and hopefully things will settle down to post more in the new year.

Take care all
Lost x

Oh its lovely to see a post from you Muvver. I remember you well and we share the same problem with the demands being made and the un willingness of the addict to even use a bin or do some washing (having us on a 24/7 on call ). Its great to hear you are able to let her fend for herself more and I r...

Lovely to read peoples posts and responses we are here for you Muriel . It gives me the useful type of hope for me , which is hope for myself to have a good enjoyable life despite the addicts behaviour . Like you LM I was seen as a walking ATM along with crisis manager and problem solver to the addi...

I understand Muriel , I spent years on with giving "fresh starts" in money , flats , vans etc etc. Now I feel like if he does want a fresh start I would be willing to help but only after a long period of continued action and being clean. I try to not get my hopes "up" and just in...

Great posts by all . I do wish your son Muriel takes the help on offer by the 12 steps. My experience is the only hope I try to hold for him is in my heart and prayers . When I let hope affect my actions it felt too much like a roller coaster of up down and round about. Mine keeps showing he is an a...

Sending strength to all

Its the same old circle/ merry go round LM unfortunately as far as they are concerned. Only thing we have control over is our response and you are such a great example.

We cant change them and can only look after ourselves .

Sending hugs
Lost xx

Really pleased to hear this lesleerose , long may it continue.

Big hugs
Lost x

Thank you LM, yes getting stronger all the time and no more surgery needed now fingers crossed . The merry go round of the addict, lies and cons for money from family members is still the same, except I am not on the ride (just have to hear through third parties) . I am just applying grey rock to it...

What a lovely quote coriander , just what I needed to read.
I agree its a fantastic forum, with great people.
I hope your rough time is passing.

Take Care
Lost x

Hi wychwood, Just wanted to welcome you and let you know you are not alone . I agree with the advice the others have given and please do not blame yourself . Our family have been at this for years with the addict and we have tried every which way possible, tough love, offering hugs, offering expensi...

Hi All Yes I think there are many people who have gone through / are going through similar. Many I don’t think talk about it . I sometimes think about being more open with friends but then at other times I prefer the security of somewhere like here where I know people understand. I have had friends ...

Thanks Poetry , am nearly back at full strength ( all surgeries etc done) so hopefully will have more energy and get on here a bit more now. Its true that the bonds we have here are amazing, its the shared experiences we have all been through. People seem to find it difficult to understand unless th...

Just wanted to send some hugs and support Leslee

Take Care
Lost x

Hi Peggy , I identify with so much in your posts, you are not alone with this . Mine is a highly intelligent idiot (even has good qualifications) however drugs are the most important thing in his life and drugs don't discriminate. We have done the merry go round of job losses , re starts etc. Its al...