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- Thu Mar 28, 2024 9:05 am
- Forum: Discussion Area
- Topic: Help focusing on ways forward
- Replies: 12
- Views: 142
Re: Help focusing on ways forward
A belated hello Myfamily. You sound as if you are doing all of the right things, and are grateful for the advice given on here. I can reassure you that you have found the right place, and that you will get a lot of excellent advice and fellowship on here, as you've already found out. Nothing that yo...
- Thu Mar 28, 2024 9:01 am
- Forum: Discussion Area
- Topic: Some light and hope .. although a long way to go
- Replies: 3
- Views: 45
Re: Some light and hope .. although a long way to go
A lovely, inspiring post. Quite beautifully expressed. Of course you are not preaching. I think that in the addiction fellowships there is the notion of the higher power, but this does not have to be something overtly theological or religious. A higher power could be something which gives us joy and...
- Thu Mar 28, 2024 8:56 am
- Forum: Discussion Area
- Topic: I don’t know what to fo
- Replies: 3
- Views: 19
Re: I don’t know what to fo
Agree! What others do is up to them. We cannot possibly be responsible for their decisions. The reason that you feel unsure is that you have been brought low by your son's addiction. In time, you will recover from this. P.
- Mon Mar 25, 2024 4:03 pm
- Forum: Discussion Area
- Topic: Gratitude week ?
- Replies: 3
- Views: 72
Re: Gratitude week ?
Thank you admin. I will see can I donate using the online facility. Poetry.
- Sun Mar 24, 2024 7:59 pm
- Forum: Discussion Area
- Topic: Help needed
- Replies: 3
- Views: 76
Re: Help needed
Karat, a big welcome. I'm not able, at the moment, because of health reasons, to make a lengthy response to what you have written, but I do feel your pain and your anguish. It's up to the addict, and I suppose, looking on the bright side, once your husband realises that he has had a lapse, and no, a...
- Sun Mar 24, 2024 7:55 pm
- Forum: Discussion Area
- Topic: Feel broken
- Replies: 19
- Views: 388
Re: Feel broken
I agree with Leslee Lacura. You have done your utmost. Your son has this one chance. He should welcome it with open arms. Now concentrate on yourself and your other relationships. Tough advice, but you have to let him get on with it. Nothing which you do will either help or hinder him. It's entirely...
- Fri Mar 22, 2024 8:14 pm
- Forum: Discussion Area
- Topic: I know i have to let go
- Replies: 6
- Views: 135
Re: I know i have to let go
Welcome Mf. There is no need for you to help your husband. The only person who can help him is himself. You have done nothing wrong, and the only way back is for him to completely turn everything around. It isn't an illness. It's a choice. When I had got the stage with my addict son when I thought t...
- Fri Mar 22, 2024 8:08 pm
- Forum: Discussion Area
- Topic: So had enough - don’t have the strength
- Replies: 17
- Views: 259
Re: So had enough - don’t have the strength
When I reflect on how the fear of what addicts can do and say to us when they make contact, can be so powerful that it leads us to losing control of our bodily functions (flight or fight) then I think we realise what a danger they are to us.
Agree. Take the power back. P.
Agree. Take the power back. P.
- Fri Mar 22, 2024 8:05 pm
- Forum: Discussion Area
- Topic: Death by Duvet
- Replies: 8
- Views: 113
Re: Death by Duvet
Leslee I have contacted you privately with some specific points about this post, but to sum up, I entirely agree with LM. There are days, and particularly nights (I have ME and suffer with very severe insomnia), when it has actually crossed my mind but I wouldn't particularly mind if I wasn't here v...
- Thu Mar 21, 2024 8:46 pm
- Forum: Discussion Area
- Topic: So had enough - don’t have the strength
- Replies: 17
- Views: 259
Re: So had enough - don’t have the strength
LM As others have said, and as you know, because I have said it on here many times, when I came onto this forum six years ago, you were one of the reasons I pulled myself through. There was a freshness and an energy about your posts, a willingness to engage with the decent and the good things in lif...
- Wed Mar 20, 2024 1:04 pm
- Forum: Discussion Area
- Topic: So had enough - don’t have the strength
- Replies: 17
- Views: 259
Re: So had enough - don’t have the strength
My goodness Jay, the thoughts I have had about my son, including active ill wishing, would make others, who have no idea what they have put us through, shudder.
Feel no remorse, but see it as your own cry for help. We will help you. P.
Feel no remorse, but see it as your own cry for help. We will help you. P.
- Wed Mar 20, 2024 1:01 pm
- Forum: Discussion Area
- Topic: 40 days later my son has made contact 🙏🏽
- Replies: 7
- Views: 128
Re: 40 days later my son has made contact 🙏🏽
Of course.
I'm so pleased to hear that you will offer support but NO ENABLING.
Do keep letting us know how you are. You are important. P.
I'm so pleased to hear that you will offer support but NO ENABLING.
Do keep letting us know how you are. You are important. P.
- Sun Mar 17, 2024 1:56 am
- Forum: Discussion Area
- Topic: Exhausted
- Replies: 14
- Views: 229
Re: Exhausted
LM is one of the reasons I've survived this. Xxxxxxxx
- Sat Mar 16, 2024 5:27 pm
- Forum: Discussion Area
- Topic: Frightened
- Replies: 33
- Views: 599
Re: Frightened
I posted earlier, but although it said it was submitting, it has not come out. Totally agree with all of the others on here. Everybody has been worried about you. Please do not change your decision and have your granddaughter and her partner back. P.
- Thu Mar 14, 2024 12:22 pm
- Forum: Discussion Area
- Topic: New Member
- Replies: 19
- Views: 372
Re: New Member
Hello JayC. A big welcome from me, and as one of the others has said, there are now many virtual arms around you, and on here you will be understood and supported. You have been through a shocking ordeal, as, in our different ways, we all have, and now is the time to tell yourself that there is an e...