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by Poetry
Thu Mar 28, 2024 9:05 am
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Help focusing on ways forward
Replies: 12
Views: 142

Re: Help focusing on ways forward

A belated hello Myfamily. You sound as if you are doing all of the right things, and are grateful for the advice given on here. I can reassure you that you have found the right place, and that you will get a lot of excellent advice and fellowship on here, as you've already found out. Nothing that yo...
by Poetry
Thu Mar 28, 2024 9:01 am
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Some light and hope .. although a long way to go
Replies: 3
Views: 45

Re: Some light and hope .. although a long way to go

A lovely, inspiring post. Quite beautifully expressed. Of course you are not preaching. I think that in the addiction fellowships there is the notion of the higher power, but this does not have to be something overtly theological or religious. A higher power could be something which gives us joy and...
by Poetry
Thu Mar 28, 2024 8:56 am
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: I don’t know what to fo
Replies: 3
Views: 19

Re: I don’t know what to fo

Agree! What others do is up to them. We cannot possibly be responsible for their decisions. The reason that you feel unsure is that you have been brought low by your son's addiction. In time, you will recover from this. P.
by Poetry
Mon Mar 25, 2024 4:03 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Gratitude week ?
Replies: 3
Views: 72

Re: Gratitude week ?

Thank you admin. I will see can I donate using the online facility. Poetry.
by Poetry
Sun Mar 24, 2024 7:59 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Help needed
Replies: 3
Views: 76

Re: Help needed

Karat, a big welcome. I'm not able, at the moment, because of health reasons, to make a lengthy response to what you have written, but I do feel your pain and your anguish. It's up to the addict, and I suppose, looking on the bright side, once your husband realises that he has had a lapse, and no, a...
by Poetry
Sun Mar 24, 2024 7:55 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Feel broken
Replies: 19
Views: 388

Re: Feel broken

I agree with Leslee Lacura. You have done your utmost. Your son has this one chance. He should welcome it with open arms. Now concentrate on yourself and your other relationships. Tough advice, but you have to let him get on with it. Nothing which you do will either help or hinder him. It's entirely...
by Poetry
Fri Mar 22, 2024 8:14 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: I know i have to let go
Replies: 6
Views: 135

Re: I know i have to let go

Welcome Mf. There is no need for you to help your husband. The only person who can help him is himself. You have done nothing wrong, and the only way back is for him to completely turn everything around. It isn't an illness. It's a choice. When I had got the stage with my addict son when I thought t...
by Poetry
Fri Mar 22, 2024 8:08 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: So had enough - don’t have the strength
Replies: 17
Views: 259

Re: So had enough - don’t have the strength

When I reflect on how the fear of what addicts can do and say to us when they make contact, can be so powerful that it leads us to losing control of our bodily functions (flight or fight) then I think we realise what a danger they are to us.

Agree. Take the power back. P.
by Poetry
Fri Mar 22, 2024 8:05 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Death by Duvet
Replies: 8
Views: 113

Re: Death by Duvet

Leslee I have contacted you privately with some specific points about this post, but to sum up, I entirely agree with LM. There are days, and particularly nights (I have ME and suffer with very severe insomnia), when it has actually crossed my mind but I wouldn't particularly mind if I wasn't here v...
by Poetry
Thu Mar 21, 2024 8:46 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: So had enough - don’t have the strength
Replies: 17
Views: 259

Re: So had enough - don’t have the strength

LM As others have said, and as you know, because I have said it on here many times, when I came onto this forum six years ago, you were one of the reasons I pulled myself through. There was a freshness and an energy about your posts, a willingness to engage with the decent and the good things in lif...
by Poetry
Wed Mar 20, 2024 1:04 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: So had enough - don’t have the strength
Replies: 17
Views: 259

Re: So had enough - don’t have the strength

My goodness Jay, the thoughts I have had about my son, including active ill wishing, would make others, who have no idea what they have put us through, shudder.

Feel no remorse, but see it as your own cry for help. We will help you. P.
by Poetry
Wed Mar 20, 2024 1:01 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: 40 days later my son has made contact 🙏🏽
Replies: 7
Views: 128

Re: 40 days later my son has made contact 🙏🏽

Of course.

I'm so pleased to hear that you will offer support but NO ENABLING.

Do keep letting us know how you are. You are important. P.
by Poetry
Sun Mar 17, 2024 1:56 am
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Exhausted
Replies: 14
Views: 229

Re: Exhausted

LM is one of the reasons I've survived this. Xxxxxxxx
by Poetry
Sat Mar 16, 2024 5:27 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: Frightened
Replies: 33
Views: 599

Re: Frightened

I posted earlier, but although it said it was submitting, it has not come out. Totally agree with all of the others on here. Everybody has been worried about you. Please do not change your decision and have your granddaughter and her partner back. P.
by Poetry
Thu Mar 14, 2024 12:22 pm
Forum: Discussion Area
Topic: New Member
Replies: 19
Views: 372

Re: New Member

Hello JayC. A big welcome from me, and as one of the others has said, there are now many virtual arms around you, and on here you will be understood and supported. You have been through a shocking ordeal, as, in our different ways, we all have, and now is the time to tell yourself that there is an e...