Families Anonymous

Well done and please do not backtrack on this. From what you say, it sounds as if your husband is genuine. You both need to protect yourself from this woman. You saw all the danger signs, and were wise enough to come on here and chat to the rest of us about it. I hope that your husband doesn't get i...

Welcome to the forum. Yours is the story, although the details differ, of everybody on here, and it isn't even selfish to want to reclaim your life. Your partner's behaviour is her choice. Equally, you can make a choice to get out, even though there will be short-term pain, and live the life which i...

TL An uncompromising message from me, which is, it is now time to get out. I know that, in your worn down, distressed and horrified state, you'll find this difficult to either accept, or to plan, but I suggest to you that you start thinking in that direction. It sounds as if you do not have a future...

Oh! Lovely story DQ. I can "see" it vividly. P. X

Wishing you pockets of happiness, Tired. P. X

It's good that you have the motivation to spring clean and to get the house in order. That is probably a sign of things changing for you, and feeling you have much more control than previously. No one judges anybody on here. Being at the receiving end of some of what would get when we have an addict...

Thanks everybody. I think that sometimes we have a problem with that phrase, "stay positive". It isn't always possible. And that doesn't matter. What I've tried to do on the bleaker stays is to look for that ray of hope - a moment when suddenly, we are in touch with life again. It can be s...

It's quite permissible to have bad days, when all of the negative thoughts flood back, and we think about the past, how we've been hurt, how the addict manages to get away with it etc etc. Best to try to distract yourself when you are feeling like this, because if we don't, we seek further into the ...

Ultimatum time. He's got a problem, and the fact that you photographed the glasses tells you that you know that he has a problem, and you're not willing to tolerate it. Addiction, or a problem with drinking that means acm partner lies to you and then covers up, is something which I think to an exten...

Butterfly You've done absolutely brilliantly, but you know what? that in itself can be a strain. Good for your husband, getting his six months token, but remember that you are on here for you, and everything which you have written here sounds normal to me, after the audio which you have been through...

I SO agree!

You are both showing such determination, and acting with dignity. It is the HARDEST thing. We know, because we have done it. Love, P.

Hello Viv Welcome to the forum. If you stay with us on here you will get support all the way. I endorse what Leslee has said above. She is right to point out that the forum is for you, and although it is great that you're sharing with us everything which you're doing to support your son, and that is...

You sound like an absolutely lovely person, kind, giving, compassionate and forbearing, but you are being taken advantage of. I've been on this forum for six years now, and generally speaking, I probably post about five times a week. I do not think that your partner is free of drugs. I suspect that ...

Jore, thank you for getting back in touch and letting us know what has happened. I know that I will speak for everybody on here when I say that my heart goes out to you and I send you a massive hug. What a terrible ordeal you have been through, not your husband's death alone, but everything which pr...

Sorry to be blunt. He's treated you appallingly and is an addict. That is not doing his best.

I understand how you feel but if you work on it, one day you will have your self respect restored. P.