Families Anonymous

He was supposed to go to a meeting tonight, checked his location and he’s at a bar. He said ‘but it’s someone’s birthday work, everyone’s here, I’m going to a meeting tomorrow instead’ it’s just excuse after excuse after excuse. All that’s telling me is a night out is more important than our relatio...

Thank you everyone for your kind words, I know this is true. Unfortunately the house is his and therefore I now have to look to move out, it all seems very overwhelming and I don’t know what decision to make. So hard when you love someone but you know it’s not that simple..

Hi everyone, I haven’t posted here for a while but today I’ve asked my boyfriend to go and stay with his parents for a while to give me some space. He’s using again and again and at this point he’s breaking me as well as him. I told him every time he does it a bit of my love for him dies. Today is t...

Yes I know you are right and I have now told him that unless he is going regularly to meetings, I.e. at least twice a week work depending then I will be going. I also told him straight on Sunday morning that if he loses me he will hit rock bottom and outlined to him how serious the situation is. I k...

So I’ve posted on here a couple of times before and I’ve found everyone very helpful and supportive. Over the weekend my boyfriend relapsed again. He was supposed to pick me up after a night out, he was on his way and then just didn’t turn up and went completely off radar. I ended up being taken hom...

Yes I’m not sure I can not confront but I was just curious as to what you feel the best thing to do is as I’m so new to all of this. I will confront him and I have the proof as he evidently did not think I would find it... I’m just so frustrated, he has only just got back in contact with his mum and...

Hi would anyone be interested in starting a new group meeting in or around Alton in Hampshire? My closest place currently is Guildford and that is a struggle. I have posted this in the meetings forum also but it seems more likely to be seen here.

I know and I do love him and really want things to change I’m just struggling and I thought we had turned a corner, I haven’t confronted him about it yet, should I?

Hi would anyone be interested in starting a new group meeting in or around Alton in Hampshire? My closest place currently is Guildford and that is a struggle.

Hi Cookie, I really feel your pain right now, I didn’t want to accept that my partner had a problem and then when I did I couldn’t bring myself to fully accept what that even meant and even now I’m struggling. Part of it seems to be that when he’s in cocaine he functions well but that’s not the poin...

Thank you all for your responses. He has been going to meetings and I have just discovered he is using again. I am heartbroken, particularly as I really felt like we were turning a corner. I’m now in an impossible situation, if I leave him he will have no one and I don’t want that for him. I love hi...

Hi Strawberry, I really feel for you here. I’ve been struggling with this for a while now, my boyfriend is a cocaine addict and he started going to meetings, told me he really wanted to change and I’ve just found cocaine in his van where he obviously thought I wouldn’t look. He is also struggling to...

Thank you so much. I have found some CA meetings that he is willing to go to, one which I can go to with him initially and then hopefully he will feel strong enough to go alone. But I will look for a support group for me because I do struggle a lot xxx

Reading this post really gave me hope. Everything you said is what I am currently going through (minus the baby!) and I am really hopeful that my partner can kick his addiction. Seeing a success story really helps me to believe he can do it so thank you xxx

Thank you both of you - he has accepted that he is an addict and has a problem and is attending meetings so I am cautiously optimistic. I am aware it’s a long road to recovery and we have a long way to go but I do want to stay and support him so I will give it my best shot. It’s just difficult becau...