Still here

[Poetry]

Thank you for a life affirming post, Kmum.

Px

[LM66]

Hi Kmum
Glad to read things have got better for you.
Enjoy the good times, and the kiddies.

Much Love
L x

[Kmum]

Hi all. So much love to all of you. Sorry not posted for a while, but when life is quiet….

My youngest,the dot is coming to see me tomorrow. She’s doing bloody brilliant! She’s staying at my sisters for the weekend and tomorrow I’m picking her up to go see her Gran, who just had her 80th b-day (my mum). And my dad who turned 85 last month. I’m so looking forward to it. I’ve got my daughter back!!! Thank all that is thankable!

She was the coke addict, alcoholic who has turned herself around…. (One day at a time)

I’m so proud.


My eldest (trans bitch-Queen) is still blocked, as am I. I struggled at Xmas, but bullocks!!! Not my doing and not my problem! To be fair, we never got on since I had to carry the little bugger into primary school and hand it over screaming in the playground to the teacher. She (teacher) was so kind to me. The child loved school, but hated going. Does that make sense? Anyway… done with it now. Still no news, so still must be alive. She told me (before she blocked me) that I was only to be contacted upon her death - not any admission to hospital. Suits me! Makes me very sad though. Life is so Double-edged sometimes.

To explain, my eldest, my first born was the sweetest little boy, he was clever and funny, such a little character. I will only remember him as this cheeky, funny little kid who was so smart. He could read and write, was computer literate and very affectionate, all before he started school.

Primary school was ok, once I got him into his teachers clutches, but he hated me leaving, then hated leaving school to go home. Turns out he has Aspergers syndrome. That’s ok! We can do this, and we did!
He went off to Uni at 19 and life was ok.

When he told me, around 10 years ago he ‘needed’ to be a woman,I thought, ok. That’s fine! We can do this. But…
It turns out, all he told me was straight off Google,as the doctors said, then he failed all criteria for hormones etc. he/she buys their hormones from China ffs. Cos that’s got to be good?

‘She’ now spends her entire life in her room in a shared house, complaining and getting deeper into cannabis (has no money!) and blaming everyone for her shitty life.

And that Ladies,is why I’m not entertaining any more crap from Her!!!

So there! .


I do hope you’re all doing ok. My God, if I had my time again I’d be sterilised at 12
Looking forward to seeing little dot tomorrow though. Wish me luck.

Lots of luck and love to you all.
My friends

[Kmum]

Just to say…
Thank you all for being here. I love you You have been my saviours.

You’re all amazing and don’t forget that!

KMum.

[LM66]

Hi Kmum

Im so happy for you! Well done to your daughter for turning things around - long may it continue.
Enjoy your time with her. Make memories.
As for your older daughter, there is nothing you can do there. She's made a choice to block you from her life, and for your protection/survival, you have made yours - to step back from the drama!
Much Love
L x

[lesleerose]

Hi k/mum so very happy one of your children has turned this around and she is doing so very well terrific news … ODAAT … I will be 25 years sober on the 14th February so yes it can be done ..
Your other daughter I don’t talk about anything I haven’t experienced but she sounds like a very mixed up young lady … my addict daughter used to wet herself on purpose she thought that would stop her going to school as she didn’t want to leave me but once there she was ok …
Thank god I keep it simple the more I think of it there are more questions than answers so just don’t think … I used to think wurzel Gummage had the answer if you could take off your head and put another one on lol
Please keep posting we need to here from everyone on here that’s how it works we have to give it away to keep it
Yours in famanon fellowship
Lesleerose

[2splendourangel]

Hi Kumum I have seen some of your past posts but cannot remember putting a post into you. It is always good news to hear that someone has got good news from their child and they are doing good in recovery. I always say that if an addict really wants to turn things around then they can do it. It must feel great to have the return of your daughter, although as you say in your post it is early days and one day at a time is good to hold onto. The help from your daughters partner is fantastic as they can help each other and be their for each other. The other child is not doing so well but you never know that one could also make some progress so never give up. My daughter is still using the crack pipe as far as I know it kills me to say that, after her brilliant education and her four years at Uni I cannot even believe she got her degree and then decided to throw her life down the toilet. Too clever and thought she knew everything until into her life walked her gutless boyfriend and between the two of them started producing children and somewhere down the line my daughter started using drugs. Much of it is water under the bridge to me now as almost 12 years on and the poor kiddies in the care system as my other daughter put in to the authorities to get them only when she got them she could not cope I went to the house to get them but socials came and said I could not take them and they would get foster carers for them. Biggest load of B---S---. I have ever heard and not a day passes by that I do not think about them. The few visits a year are a waste of time what can anyone do in an hours visit. Oh well another day passes and another day passes and in a few years the eldest one will be eighteen and the other one not far off, I will have somewhere for them to live if they want it that is if these people have not turned them against biological family although even by then their mother will not have much to offer them that is even if they want to know her. I will stand by them and do what I can I just hope they don't think what a F--K--d up family who needs them. I pray to God I get them at eighteen that is all that keeps me going every day and a reason to live. Take care All Hugs to All 2Splendourangel

[ANAID777]

My heart goes out to you … the children are biggest victims in all of the trauma .. I hope your grandchildren know how much you love them and that you are able to support them as they traverse the minefield of adulthood. The system is broken for sure xxx

[Kmum]

Hi all.

Sorry it’s been so long, life got in the way,

I just spent about half an hour typing responses to you all, and then went back to see the name of the new person, splendorangel, sorry my love, I can’t remember your full name, but anyway, having gone back to look, I lost all that I had written!! Ffs!

What I have basically said, and sorry peeps, but you’re now going to get the short version…. Thankfully!

My Dot is doing great, her in-laws (fiancées family) are supporting her and her girlfriend, and they now have a house to move to soon, so gf’s mum & dad can finally get some peace. And they are both now free of substances for almost a year. Well done girls!! I’m so proud of them. They will be living very near gfs parents and have to visit most days for their allotment (veggies, flowers, chickens and Guinea pigs to look after). So will be under constant care, while being independent. Cleverly done!

My eldest.. (Trans Bitch Queen) still has me blocked, but that’s fine. I have unblocked ‘her’, because I’m her mum, but hope not to hear much. But Dot tells me TBQ has a girlfriend, and sent me a pic. Also trans, but that’s fine, at least she’s got a lif now and got out of that bloody house sometimes! Maybe I’ll be unblocked sometime, but not really bothered after the hatred, so just glad life has move for her.

I hope you all are well. Lesleerose, I send you love and healing my lovely. Keep fighting the crap m’dear. You’re stronger than you know.


LM66, DQ, Poetry. I send you love and hope all is well.

Bugger the world…. Do YOUR thing ladies. . Love you all

[Kmum]

2splendourangel

Hi. Welcome to my world. X

I’m so sorry to read your post to me, it really upsets me when our kids fk up and the next generation suffer. Ugghh it makes me mad!
My step-grand kids have gone through a break up with their parents, with mum being a coke addict. It’s clear she has sorted herself out, which is great, but the kids hardly see her. Her choice. Their dad though, my hubby’s boy, he’s amazing! He’s holding it all together, full time job, with all (the kid’s) grandparents and friends to support him, he’s got it! The kids are happy! The ex wife is happy, it seems, and dear dad is totally fkd, but kinda happy. lol.

It can be done if they’re committed, but sadly commitment is in short supply these days. I so hope you can find a way to have the proper contact that you want, and deserve.

What is the most scary….. how prevalent are these drugs? Crikey, in my day you’d have to bypass 4 bikers behind the pub to get a joint! Now you can uber your fix to your door. We’re dooomed!


Sending you love m’dear. Welcome to my world.
Km

[Kmum]

Lesleerose.

CONGRATULATIONS on your silver anniversary! That was in my original post, that I lost. I’m sooooo proud of you! Well done my lovely . You’re AMAZING! Never forget it!!

So much love.
Km.

[lesleerose]

Hi kmum
Thank you so much the girls on here made my 25 years sober very welcoming and sent individual message one girl lives down the road and what a beautiful plaque
It’s brilliant about your daughter so well done dot
I saw a program on tv showing different ways to get clean and the most positive and outcome was working on the land chickens cows flowers herbs home made bread and pastries then sold from the farm to the public so it was self funding I think it’s the way forward in time
Lovely to here from you
Please keep us updated
Ps I have an ice queen daughter not transgender has ignored me for 15 years now
Yours in famanon fellowship
L x

[Kmum]

Hi all

So much love to you all.

My Dot is fab, and her and har fiancée, who she met in rehab, blimey, 2 years ago! Have just done a year clean and sober!! So proud of them, they’re amazing!

They’ve booked us tickets to the festival of lights at Longleat (me and Dot’s Aunty, my sister). So we’ll be staying with them, hopefully in their new home, but otherwise at gf’s parents where they’re currently living. Our Xmas prezzies. How cute?

Can’t wait. Will be sooooo good to spend time in their new home. Hopefully they’ll have completed by then. Taking forever!


They came down to see me recently, just popped in! Like you do! . They’re great. Thank you to Jesus or whatever is in charge of this stuff. . I’m so grateful.


My eldest, the trans bitch Queen, has not been in touch, but I get from Dot that the relationship is ongoing, with the other trans. I’m confused a bit, not transphobic or anything, just confused, …. As they both started out as male, are they now lesbians, or are they gay? Who knows?


Heigh ho! It’s a lot different from when I was growing up!


I do hope you’re all ok. I’m sorry I don’t get on here often, but I do think of you, and as i’m now a Reiki Healer, I include you all when I send my healing. I’m actually qualified as an animal healer, but we’re not much different. .

Lots of love to you all. Just thought you’d like an update. Always good to hear good news. Dot is doing well. .

Thank you all for your love. Xxx. I couldn’t have made it through without you.
Love you.
Km

[LM66]

Hi Kmum
Great to hear from you, and with such wonderful news.
I wish your daughter and her partner all the happiness in the world in their new home.
Have the best time at festival of Lights.
Much Love
L x

[Poetry]

Kmum. Wonderful news. I'm so pleased for Dot, knowing how, every day, she must wake up to a world so different from the one she lived in for some time. All the very best to her and her partner for their future together. It sounds as if they're going to be including you in it every step of the way. Well done girls.

As for your first born, you just have to let go. It sounds as if you are not willing to be dragged into the rather strange situation prevailing!

You have so much psychic energy, and its clear you're going to be using it for good. I'm sure that it goes without saying that on here, we'd all love to hear from you from time to time, and hope that you'll keep in touch. P. X